My husband is a hard-charging professional. He says if I fight him, he won't give me anything and will leave me destitute and take my children. Can he?

No. This is a common position of the abusive husband often typified by the very successful aggressive professional. Texas is a very spouse-friendly state and your spouse need not give you anything, you should simply take what the law says is yours. BIA., attorneys, and the courts deal every day with the threatening, abusive and egotistical spouse. Frankly, at BIA we like to help whittle them down to size. Certain professions are recognized for routinely generating this type of litigant - medicine, law, airline pilots, politicians and business owners often are seen as endemic bullies.

That is OK. Understand that from the moment a divorce is filed, the court and your lawyer are going to control the action. Even the biggest bully's threats can be controlled, mitigated and reversed by a judge. It is simple, the bully will do what the court says or he will ultimately pay. The bully may win some early battles but if handled properly, we can turn the bully's perceived strengths into actual weaknesses. Think about it, would you be inclined to help a bully? Neither will be the court.

The key again is document, document, document all of your adversary's behavior. Use your adversary's behavior against him.

Next, hire a good lawyer. Family Law is almost totally controlled by the Family Code and while all lawyers can file divorces, we strongly recommend attorneys who have a heavy Family Law case load. See our professional referral page for attorneys in your area. The attorney can assist you in deciding whether to hire Bearden Investigative Agency, Inc. to further document the bully's behavior for the courts perusal.